I don't know what's going on with me, but I feel myself being pulled -- or am I deliciously sinking -- into a place I'll call the no-bullshit zone. I started using natural oils and gradually got pissed at China and next thing you know, I'm raging against mascara and hair extensions. Here it comes.
Just so you know, makeup was never my thing. I used to say men look attractive without makeup, why are women only considered beautiful when they are painted? I only started wearing makeup when I went silver, and even then, most people can't tell I'm wearing any. But I made the supreme effort for the greater good of silverkind. The problem is my lashes are sparse, and mascara only goes so far.
I actually looked into alternatives such as eyelash extensions, Latisse, tinting and eyelash perms -- yes, there is such a thing. And then I thought, why? Because someone somewhere decided we have to have doll-like lashes? Can't someone somewhere say natural-looking lashes are just fine, thank you? I now do a little swipe of mascara just to darken them a bit and leave it at that.
And so it comes to extensions of another sort. As I was watching television the other night, I was struck by the quality of the hair. It's like they are genetically superior. Seriously, I actually said it looks to me that if you have thick hair, the world is your oyster. You can have a pie job on TV and live happily ever after. Not that I'm bitter about having fine hair.
Not long after that, I saw where Cindy Joseph dyed her hair blonde for an advertising gig. In the discussion at Going Gray Looking Great, Cindy comments on the choices she made and reveals that she wears extensions. She really does look fabulous, but all this time I had been thinking maybe someday my hair could look like hers! In a parallel universe maybe.
Everyone should remember that celebrities are very different from you and me. The rest of us should not and cannot be held up to a standard of beauty defined by fakery. They are entertainers and peddlers of products that may or may not be useful -- certainly not role models.
Most of us live in the world of mere mortals, and I believe mere mortals are attracted to each other without all the bullshit. And mere mortals can look and feel gorgeous without trying to mimic celebrities. We are not them, so let's quit pretending.
I'm certainly not giving up, and I will probably continue to use cosmetics and other products sparingly, but I am rethinking my definition of beauty, and I have to tell you, it feels good.